Hi friends!
I just had to blog about this today! i was busy facebooking today and had a moment of truth. one of my close friends, who has a lot of personal suffering, once commented that FB is such a bane cos in spite of our networks becoming wider and more accessible these days, people are becoming more and more isolated. comments about this later...
Now my ex-boyfriend, he's a pretty switched-on fella. he once helped me tremendously in my 'wisdom-ity' by giving me a link to a wikipedia page about something called 'reaction formation'. essentially, reaction formation pertains to how humankind tends to 'love' (albeit unconsciously) something which they hate. for example, a little girl who has been sexually abused would engage in masturbation, the very thing which she abhored happen to her.
when i eventuallybroke off with my ex-boyfriend, BOY did i have a bad case of reaction formation. not that i hated HIM but i hated the fact that we had broken off. so i had to literally tie my hands together to prevent myself from texting him continuously.
Somehow i have this image of me as Ren being irritating like that... ;Pwhy does reaction formation occur? in the anxiety that we face having something traumatic happen to us, we paradoxically seek out that very thing, in our human need to understand more about that thing which caused us pain but which we did not understand the reason for. so, a child masturbating would tell us that this child is unconsciously trying to make sense of that confusing and horrible thing which had happened to her. or, a needy and desperate woman who continuously texts her ex is actually trying to get a proper explanation for why they broke off (incidentally, i only texted my ex ONCE after we broke off, so this does not refer to me LOL!)
Back to facebook, my friends and i had the most hilarious chat online today about... pizza. i guess it is funny to me cos i had been 'on a diet' for the most of this week, and, in my confusion about why i was doing this to myself, the sight of an oily morrocan lamb pizza screamed out at me to eat it at dinner time.
needless to say, that was when i had my moment of truth...
IT FINALLY MADE BLOODY SENSE!!!
and, FB is the same thing... the more you do not hear from someone (well at least for me), the more you go on FB trying to see if they had messaged you! (this goes for emailing and phone texting as well!!!) which led me to think that FB is one helluva great invention, contrary to what my negatively-inspired friend thinks.
The way I see it, reaction formation plays a major part in our lives. I may have been freed from the 'texting-the-ex' condition, but new ones continue to form every day, whether i like it or not. Such is life!!!
Here's to FB and the internet linking up people all over the world!
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*Note: Certain parts of this blog may have been exaggerated and/or downplayed to make it more humourous*
*Note: According to statistics, 4 out of every 5 Australians would have suffered a mental health condition at some stage in their lives*
This blog today is dedicated to Emon and eight months of glorious fun in the Hunter Valley getting to know some amazing people :)))
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